Steve is super cute, but pulling conversation from him might be worse than pulling a tooth.
We had a nice first conversation, but I had to pull it out of him at first. We eventually landed on a really interesting topic that got us both chatting for a long time about something semi-serious. We agreed to meet.
I gave him a chance because he was interesting, kind, smart, handsome and lived close by. He wasn’t funny and it was harder to engage him than I preferred.
When he arrived at the restaurant he surprised me a little because he was even cuter in person, if a little slight for my taste. He also sat down and ordered…hold on to your horses…a drink! Did I apply some kind of peer pressure? When I asked him abut it and he clarified he didn’t mind having drinks when he was out socially, but he just did’t drink much. Ok, so thats not a bad middle place to meet! Better than no drinking!
We had no problem chatting away about anything as long as I led the conversation starters. We shared some food which I always enjoy and I could tell he liked me. When the bar began to close he asked me if we could find another place to go as he didn’t want the night to end.
I don’t know why I never say no to these things. It was a perfectly acceptable time to end that date.
In any case, we went to a different bar for another drink. We didn’t stay long because he want to make-out and asked if I would go to his car with him. Such a teenager, but he’s like a little kid in many ways and I was a little buzzed at this point and I almost never say no to kissing.
Steve is, without a doubt, sort of clueless. He needs (or wants?) a woman to lead the way, and since thats not my style, the making out didn’t last long or go far. He’s a great kisser and we can leave it at that. I don’t suspect he has much going on below the belt and I wasn’t super interested in investigating.
I have heard from Steve by text over the course of a week, but he doesn’t know (or again, want?) to engage much. Its clear he likes me, but he really doesn’t start or carry a conversation so I’ve stopped trying – which means this fizzles out soon enough. He has also had his child the last 3 weekends in a row which doesn’t sound like a 50/50 split to me. I have met parents who want to spend all their free time with their children, and parents who like to have a bit more independence. Steve is a Dad who will choose time with his child every time. This also isn’t a great match for me as I have plenty of free time and I like my independence. At first he seemed like he had a lot of “other activities” besides his chid, but from what I’ve seen over 2 weeks, it all revolves around activity with is child.
Should I consider going out again with him if he asks?
Some of my friends think he could just be shy ad I should give him a chance. I tend to believe I figure most of these guys out pretty quickly, but who knows, maybe I have it all wrong.
I would probably go out with him again. If he should ever get around to asking.
And, NonDrinker #4 just stopped communicating, another ghost, so there won’t be any post about him. My experiment with non-drinkers was a fail!