Since anxious attachment is top of mind I started going back through all the dates etc the past 5 years.
I actually found one that didn’t start in anxious attachment! Yay me! 😂🙄
Just before Tony and post Bobby, I met Adam.
I enjoyed meeting Adam each week and we always had a good time over the course of about 6-8 weeks.
For certain, I recall the beginnings of the anxiety and I also remember directly asking him about it.
His answer was: I don’t want more. Clean. Simple. Straightforward.
I remember how I felt about it – not happy, but really clear.
I wanted to like him more but he almost never communicated with me in-between dates. He was great at planning a date and being 100% in and focused on me during a date, but nothing else. It had started to frustrate me because I always want more. I want to know where I stand and he had made a big deal about me getting tested, but then didn’t ask for exclusivity – the two didn’t add up.
So it ended.
I forgot all about it because the start of Tony was around the end of Adam.
Why can’t they all just communicate like that? What is it with most men that there has to be so much hesitation and ambiguity?
Makes me nuts.