Follow Up : Letter to the Wife

As much as I would love to read and respond to everyone’s great comments, I can’t focus that long yet! But thank you, truly.

First, I’m up and about. I’ve had complications, I’m ok, just in some pain. Questioning why the fuck I came to Mexico alone to cut out my stomach. This was a sort of death wish, I know. So I have to gather my will and get well and get out of here.

As for the letter, it’s so disjointed and vicious it’s not something I would send. It was my brain dump.

I do not actually want to hurt his wife – I want to hurt him and there’s no other way to do it plain and simple.

Do I want to dismantle his marriage? My answer to that is – I want to cause him irrevocable pain for lying to me and I do not believe under any circumstance that it will matter to his marriage when she finds out. It will be a blip in their life and they will go on.

I don’t want to be ugly like this which is why I wrote the letter: better out than in.

I don’t actually plan to send it, but one never knows with me. I do know that now is not the time. Now is the time for me to heal and I’m hoping getting over Bennett is a by-product if my body healing now.

Author: Madeline Harper

My journey through divorce and an emotional and sexual reawakening. Love, laughter, friendships, family and heartbreak included. And there is sex, lots of it, so close your eyes and turn the page if that's not for you! While I started this blog as an endeavor to journal my thoughts and feelings in an attempt to better understand myself, it has become an amazing platform from which I have met some of the most interesting and wonderful people in my life. My path is often crooked, but I hope you will share in the journey with me.

16 thoughts on “Follow Up : Letter to the Wife”

  1. The problem with revenge, is that it is never enough. Always wanting it to be more painful, ends up consuming you.

    Please, just let it go.

    I know it’s hard to do, but it really is the best thing for you in the long run.

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  2. Write her a letter of facts, no feelings, never talk to him again. Offer to send her text and so on, give her like a month. She still has life without a horrible cheat…. likely from what could read, he is always going to be unfaithful , and he would have been to you. I’m not doubting love, some people are not meant to be monogamous.

    Maybe everyone can move on to happier more productive lives.

    Here is the deal, you need to do it now or stop completely and know if you do it there will be negativity and questions, and honestly you didn’t cheat on her, he did and you will get the brunt of it. Are you strong enough for that? If not delete everything and let him go. Consider getting cut open was them taking him out of you and it’s time to start over. He doesn’t deserve your attention.

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    1. I was actually thinking “should I write a fact based letter that says : I’ve been in an affair with your husband for 2 years” and almost let it end there.

      I’ve started that and it always turns into my emotional dump.

      Maybe I should hire a professional letter writer!


      1. It’s not much different than going to Thailand in that overtime, such a demand has risen for affordable medical procedures that a whole service-care-industry has developed. Medical tourism. The care is just as good. My family lives in San Diego and go to Mexico for all their larger-cost dental work that American dental insurance barely covers.

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