Jamie and I hit it off quickly on line and moved to text. He was British, worked in banking, 5’11” and well traveled and pleasant to look at.
Very fit and healthy, into yoga, but loved his wine, we had easy banter and conversation. He asked me out quite quickly and I agreed.
We set our date and time.
Some point during the weekend before our date he was asking m some questions and seemed to love my answers. I knew this because his language was becoming sweeter and more complimentary and he started sending little emojis. We really had a lovely conversation, it never turned sexual and he was in relatively constant contact.
The night for the date was coming and I could tell he was a bit more excited than me, but, I was still looking forward to it. He asked me to choose anyplace I wanted for dinner and we agreed to a traditional steakhouse, which is always fun in a big city.
I knew the moment I saw him that I wasn’t physically attracted to him. He just wasn’t my type. But he had a sweet mannerism to him and an easy smile and I knew our conversation would be fine.
Dinner lasted about 4 hours, we laughed and joked and he eventually leaned in for a kiss, which was quite nice. My hand was on his shoulder and it was rock hard. He was a little more blown away by the kiss than I was, but I could see he was smitten.
We finished dinner and decided to stay and drink, it turned into quite a late evening with some more kissing towards the end. But, I just didn’t feel it.
We parted saying we would make plans.
He texted goodnight and again good morning and asked if he could see me on the weekend. He told me I drove him wild.
I had been thinking about why I didn’t feel any more attraction to Jamie – I couldn’t come up with any concrete reason. I thought about agreeing to seeing him the weekend and see how that went, but I also sort of knew how I felt about him wouldn’t change. There was no chemistry for me, but it was obvious chemistry for him.
U ultimately decided I would man-up and tell him the truth, I just didn’t feel the same, and didn’t want to lead him further forward. I realized that he reminded me so much of the situation with Finnian….I sort of liked him, could see laughing and having fun with him, but no real outcome to the relationship.
We parted via text on a friendly note and I moved on to the next.