When Drunk Text Goes South

I have had my share of drunk texting that I am not proud of.  Generally speaking, my drunk text go to current boyfriends and definitely not men I have yet to meet or even date.  But this man felt it was appropriate to cross a few lines with me before he even met me, we were due to meet next Sunday due to a hectic week on my end.

John seemed quite nice, met many of my initial criteria and lived close by.  I wasn’t especially certain about his looks, but he was very charming in text and we had easy conversation.   We planned to speak this weekend by phone but his commitments over ran with mine and we just postponed for another day.

He was at a golf outing on Saturday and spending the day with his buddies on Sunday.

At one point during the day he made a comment about his hereditary, noting he was half Irish and half Italian – and that he looked Irish but the parts I couldn’t’ see were all Italian and he didn’t have the Irish curse.  I sent an “lol, that’s good to know!” and brushed it off.

He then asked if I was Jewish or not, and I replied that I was not.  Religion isn’t relevant for me,  but I understand it may be for some, so I didn’t think about it.

Then we were chatting about our kids randomly and how boys can be unkempt, but the conversation took the strangest turn:


Of course, John would have no idea how a weight comment would turn me off so completely.  It’s a full-on issue for me.  I have struggled with weight all my life, and only in the last few years have I gained an appreciation for my feminine shape and curves and realize that men will appreciate it or not.  My body, while it may be too big for some (including me) shouldn’t’ have a number that distinguishes it from a beautiful body or not.

I probably shouldn’t have replied.  I did, in fact, go to sleep when I said goodnight the second time.  I was just going to delete him but felt a response was in order.

How would you have handled him?

Author: Madeline Harper

My journey through divorce and an emotional and sexual reawakening. Love, laughter, friendships, family and heartbreak included. And there is sex, lots of it, so close your eyes and turn the page if that's not for you! While I started this blog as an endeavor to journal my thoughts and feelings in an attempt to better understand myself, it has become an amazing platform from which I have met some of the most interesting and wonderful people in my life. My path is often crooked, but I hope you will share in the journey with me.

20 thoughts on “When Drunk Text Goes South”

  1. Well, if he was the one who was doing the drunk texting, ask him to not text you when he’s been drinking and let him know how weird the conversation was for you; if he complies, fine – if he doesn’t, ignore him, block his number on your phone, etc..


  2. As a woman who also struggles with weight issues, I would have handled it the same way. Love your own curves! Many men do love them too! Delete, block, and forget him! Dumb jerk!

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  3. I had a similar exchange with a man a few years ago who flat out asked how much I weighed. I told him my pictures looked like me and if weight was an issue, he wasn’t the guy for me. In your case, I would have said something similar (or given he was drunk, would have said “hey that’s about as rude as me asking what size your cock is”) and would have sent him this picture: https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/11/23/ff/1123ffdd2d2bf50130e2139bc6794a0b.jpg

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  4. I think you handled it beautifully with your responses to him. If you hear from him again, block him. He’s not worth it. Men who care about a number, have no idea what a real woman should look like.

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    1. I already blocked him this afternoon as I decided I’m really not interested in anything more he have to say. The number thing upsets me because I don’t even like my number so it was like stabbing me in the eye!

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      1. I completely get it honey! Some man who is worried about number isn’t worth your time. You are amazingly beautiful and deserve someone who knows it. ❤

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  5. WTF is a “weight enthusiast”??! I’ve never heard that term before.

    You handled it well.

    It reminds me of a similar text exchange I had not long ago (and wrote a post about it) with a guy who insisted I send him a photo of myself in underwear or a bikini before our first date to prove I wasn’t overweight. I was dumbfounded. I told him, “I don’t have any such photos of myself and I assure you that my profile photos are current.”

    He tried to convince me and I told him absolutely not, that his request was rude and paranoid. Obviously, we didn’t have that first date. LOL

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    1. I agree – wtf is a weight enthusiast? He didn’t reply to my last text so I’m pretty sure he got the hint he had insulted me.

      Listen, we all have our Likes and dislikes, I get it. But asking actual weight is as rude as it gets.

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  6. Even if you were at your goal weight, the struggle is all the same. I’m a big girl and always super open when looking for potential mates. I get no everyone will like that, and have even continued to talk with people in a friendly manner if they aren’t, we all have hang upside. But be fucking classy. If it’s that important state it in a pleasant way in the beginning and body pics are probably better than a number on a scale anyway.

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  7. I stumbled upon this post late last night and just read it to my husband. We both were cracking up at this guy- a weight enthusiast?? What the heck is that? How tacky!

    Hubby thinks you should send him a book about, “How to win friends and influence people.” Clearly this guy needs some serious dating help!!

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