I have had my share of drunk texting that I am not proud of. Generally speaking, my drunk text go to current boyfriends and definitely not men I have yet to meet or even date. But this man felt it was appropriate to cross a few lines with me before he even met me, we were due to meet next Sunday due to a hectic week on my end.
John seemed quite nice, met many of my initial criteria and lived close by. I wasn’t especially certain about his looks, but he was very charming in text and we had easy conversation. We planned to speak this weekend by phone but his commitments over ran with mine and we just postponed for another day.
He was at a golf outing on Saturday and spending the day with his buddies on Sunday.
At one point during the day he made a comment about his hereditary, noting he was half Irish and half Italian – and that he looked Irish but the parts I couldn’t’ see were all Italian and he didn’t have the Irish curse. I sent an “lol, that’s good to know!” and brushed it off.
He then asked if I was Jewish or not, and I replied that I was not. Religion isn’t relevant for me, but I understand it may be for some, so I didn’t think about it.
Of course, John would have no idea how a weight comment would turn me off so completely. It’s a full-on issue for me. I have struggled with weight all my life, and only in the last few years have I gained an appreciation for my feminine shape and curves and realize that men will appreciate it or not. My body, while it may be too big for some (including me) shouldn’t’ have a number that distinguishes it from a beautiful body or not.
I probably shouldn’t have replied. I did, in fact, go to sleep when I said goodnight the second time. I was just going to delete him but felt a response was in order.
How would you have handled him?