I figured after the breadcrumb incident last week I would eventually hear from Dave at some point. I knew he was starting a new job and had been very distracted, but I was growing weary of his last minute plans.
It took a week, but I heard from him early Saturday morning with a pleasant “Hello, How are you?” and a quick follow up to make plans for my next free days.
I was just about ready for the roundabout when I gave him my free times, but we surprisingly agreed to a brunch on Sunday morning. The funny thing was, after we agreed on a day, the time became an issue and I felt the whole thing swirling again. I put my foot down and said “I can do 11am, no earlier” and didn’t answer his two subsequent messages for the duration of the day.
When I woke in the morning, I sent a text that said, I can meet you at 11am, are we still on? He answered immediately and said he moved his PT appt (he did not mention why he was pushing for any earlier brunch the night before) and had more time to spend with me.
Maybe he’s just a poor communicator? I don’t even care that much.
I got up, got dressed and headed towards him on a perfectly divine Sunday morning.
He met me at a corner, jumped int he car, and showed me exactly where to park so the car was safe. Then we had a short stroll to a lovely brunch. Conversation is easy, not particularly enticing, but nice. He is very easy on the eyes.
Is there a spark? Not really, not without physical engagement. When we kiss there are more than enough sparks, but I tend to like that excitement that comes from the intellectual chemistry. He is a consummate gentleman which is very nice.
We had a lovely long walk after breakfast and he offered to show me his apartment before I left, and to use the bathroom and have some drinks. He was in no way pressuring me and I felt comfortable. We spent a little time fooling around on the couch and I can easily see having sex with him. He knows what to do and I can tell how much I excite him. He absolutely didn’t cross any lines but we had a pretty fantastic make-out session!
He isn’t open or closed in terms of sharing things. He is neither aggressive or too gentle physically. He just is.
I don’t necessarily feel very much. I like him. I like being with him, but there’s no pull for me.
It’s also 2 dates in 3 weeks or so. We don’t speak much in between (phone not at all, text only). I don’t feel like I know “who” he is and can’t really get a sense of him, which is strange as I am generally pretty good with reading people.
That’s it. That’s all there is to tell. A nice second date. Maybe some more breadcrumbs later this week.
I have been feeling a little sad about Bennett this week, maybe it’s the change in weather, maybe it’s the length of time we haven’t spoken….but I am feeling the separation more keenly. I didn’t think about Bennett while with Dave, but he’s on my mind now. I suppose its normal, but makes me wonder how ready and open I really am for anything more serious than light dating at the moment.