April: 7 first dates, 2 second dates
May: 3 first dates, 1 second date
Ayden and Finn remain in the picture and I have seen them both a few times. I don’t really care about keeping count of the repeat dates, we know their story!
Early June turned out busier than I expected. I spent a minimal amount of time on Tinder. Bumble is tough because I am not in my city often enough and I prefer not to match where I live (the quality of men is dismal) and after the few incidences I had with the high % matches on OKC, I mostly stopped looking there as nothing ever comes to fruition from that site.
Late June slowed down and I had my first two child free nights at home in months. I didn’t mind the alone time at all and it was a welcome break before the craziness of July starts.
I hate dating in my home city, the quality of men here just isn’t what I want long-term. I find men in suburbia to be a bit too prosaic for my tastes now. I know it’s over-generalizing but I have yet to find someone really worth dating here and have 2 friends in the area who also date in the larger city for the same reasons.
So, that brings us to the June tally:
I was also catfished in June which made for some good laughs!
And, I had sex with my high school friend which doesn’t exactly count as a date, does it?!
When speaking to friends, I thought I was initially making “lots” of bad decisions, but, in fact, only 1 date (Tinder date 1) was truly a mistake. The others were vetted properly and just didn’t net out where I wanted them to.
I think what’s starting to happen is that any bad decision is now too much of a bad decision. I don’t need to waste time on men who have no potential for me. That potential can be for dating or worthwhile casual sex.
I realize I can now do the “sex-only” dates without becoming attached like I used to. I am much more conscious of the signs and flags along the way (Ayden is a good example). As long as there is some intellectual connection, I can enjoy these experiences now as well.
June’s tally is:
5 1st dates
No 2nd dates (with the new ones, but multiple dates with Finnian and Ayden).