50 First Dates | June Edition

April: 7 first dates, 2 second dates

May: 3 first dates, 1 second date

Ayden and Finn remain in the picture and I have seen them both a few times.  I don’t really care about keeping count of the repeat dates, we know their story!

Early June turned out busier than I expected.  I spent a minimal amount of time on Tinder.  Bumble is tough because I am not in my city often enough and I prefer not to match where I live (the quality of men is dismal) and after the few incidences I had with the high % matches on OKC, I mostly stopped looking there as nothing ever comes to fruition from that site.

Late June slowed down and I had my first two child free nights at home in months. I didn’t mind the alone time at all and it was a welcome break before the craziness of July starts.

I hate dating in my home city, the quality of men here just isn’t what I want long-term.  I find men in suburbia to be a bit too prosaic for my tastes now.  I know it’s over-generalizing but I have yet to find someone really worth dating here and have 2 friends in the area who also date in the larger city for the same reasons.

So, that brings us to the June tally:

  1. Tinder date 1
  2. Tinder date 2
  3. The Almost Date
  4. The Handsome Guy
  5. Tinder Date 3 (not worth a post)

I was also catfished in June which made for some good laughs!

And, I had sex with my high school friend which doesn’t exactly count as a date, does it?!

When speaking to friends, I thought I was initially making “lots” of bad decisions, but, in fact, only 1 date (Tinder date 1)  was truly a mistake.  The others were vetted properly and just didn’t net out where I wanted them to.

I think what’s starting to happen is that any bad decision is now too much of a bad decision.   I don’t need to waste time on men who have no potential for me.  That potential can be for dating or worthwhile casual sex.

I realize I can now do the “sex-only” dates without becoming attached like I used to. I am much more conscious of the signs and flags along the way (Ayden is a good example). As long as there is some intellectual connection, I can enjoy these experiences now as well.

June’s tally is:

5 1st dates

No 2nd dates (with the new ones, but multiple dates with Finnian and Ayden).

Author: Madeline Harper

My journey through divorce and an emotional and sexual reawakening. Love, laughter, friendships, family and heartbreak included. And there is sex, lots of it, so close your eyes and turn the page if that's not for you! While I started this blog as an endeavor to journal my thoughts and feelings in an attempt to better understand myself, it has become an amazing platform from which I have met some of the most interesting and wonderful people in my life. My path is often crooked, but I hope you will share in the journey with me.

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