I spent close to a week chatting back and forth with a Doctor from San Fran. While we missed one another in San Fran, we would be able to connect in my city 3 weeks later.
This was simply going to be a hook-up, no more, no less.
We hit it off in chat immediately and had a lot of fun and sexy talk in our conversations. I was genuinely looking forward to seeing him this week in my city.
He was just the “right kind” of fun for me. I am open to playtime and we had a good text chemistry. The sexual innunedo was fun because he was witty and clever, and he didn’t cross any hard lines asking me for nude photos etc.
Once we started to nail down actual times and dates, and after a week of chatting (I checked his photos/phone # and he appeared to be who he said he was) I decided it was better safe than sorry to have a phone call before meeting him for drinks.
So, did I make the mistake of not meeting him for a drink? No harm, no foul kind of thing?
Perhaps if I was working in the city and could meet easily for a drink and get home just as easily this would have been less of a thought for me. But now, being unemployed and not having a particular reason to be in the city, these quick dates present more of a challenge for me.
Losing my job has screwed up my dating life as well which is really disappointing. With all this time on my hands I want to go have fun, but it’s a sincere investment on my behalf to get into the city to meet someone only to have a failed meeting.
I suppose, at least in this case, this guy was only a hook-up in any case, but this is going to be the problem throughout the summer – I can’t just do a quick date anymore without it costing me a chunk of my time (and money) to get in and out of the city. Rightly or wrongly, I think this is a large reason I keep Finn and Ayden around.